i wanted to post this interaction i had with a girl online
i don't know who this girl is, i just saw something she wrote on a dating site
i didn't try to talk to her or anything, i just responded to something she said
do you guys agree with her perspective, or do you agree with my perspective? i'm curious
if you can, leave a comment letting me know how you see this
i just think its interesting how we both see the question in completely different ways
girl: Don't ask "why are you single?" Geez...aren't you single as well? It implies there's something wrong with me, or with the state of singleness in general. I'm fine with where I am. Life happens.
now here's what i wrote to her:
i disagree with what u say about "why are you single" being an insult
its more like u are pretty and have a good profile so guys don't understand how you can be single.. it would be like if you met a guy who seems like a perfect guy who makes $300,000/yr and has 6 pack abs and is 6ft tall and goes to church but he is still single.. it just appears odd.. its not an insult.. its more of a compliment
if no guys asked you that, they probably already know why you are single, meaning the reason would be glaringly obvious.. too fat, too old, just not cute at all, loud obnoxious etc
i am not telling you you're wrong i'm just trying to help u understand its kindof a compliment when you hear that
its also not an assumption that there is something wrong with singleness in itself.. its actually an acknowledgement of the obvious fact that you are indeed on a dating site, so the assumption is merely that if you could change the fact that you are single- you would do so
there is no insult in that in my opinion.. its like I’m pretty sure everyone we know would like to make more money, but acknowledging such is not an insult of their current financial status
I hope you don’t take this as me being argumentative, I just wanted to speak on that so maybe you will see its kindof a compliment in a weird way
which viewpoint do you guys agree with?