these are my free-flowing thoughts on approaching women and deciphering/over-analyzing attraction for today:
when i see pretty girls i always say to myself.. "a million guys probably talk to her i probably have no chance" do u guys think this is true or false? i mean.. are women hit on as much as i think they are? and if/when they are.. are the guys all decent enough? am i as powerless as i think i am? or do i have more pull than i realize? sometimes i talk to girls and i say "it seems like u get approached all the time" and normally they will say "yeah but that doesn't mean i want every guy who approaches me" bums approach women a lot apparently.. i think that is likely because they have nothing to lose this is the same reason why married men approach women also.. if u turn them down they still have a woman at the end of the day.. they've lost nothing recently i heard two females say the number of men approaching them doesn't matter.. is this true? to me.. as a man, seeing a woman get approached a lot makes me feel less secure with her.. but women have been telling me that women don't think that way.. they were telling me that's the way men think they were saying men with a lot of women approaching them have a hard time committing, but women are wired differently.. like options to a man is a prideful thing like- "I GOT OPTIONS!" but options to a woman is like "the options are what prove my love and commitment, if i didn't have options then my love would be out of necessity as opposed to choice" in the midst of all this speculation, i watched the breakfast club interview with ne-yo and he is the one who actually wrote beyonce's "irreplaceable" (for himself) which at first sounds kinda gay, but after thinking about it more.. the song actually DOES seem to make more sense to the way a man thinks.. we think "i have options, i can have another you in a minute" women seem to almost find the plethora of options to be frustrating probably because of the dynamics of finding love.. man being lovER and woman being lovEE... something about that dynamic makes options difficult for a woman to an extent.. maybe it has something to do with the fact that women know a lot of guys could be lying and acting like they love her just to get booty.. and going through 5, 6, 7, or 8 fake guys to get to one genuine one might be seriously tiresome it seems to be like this: we men see options and we say to our main girl "you're skatin on thin ice" women see options and say to their main guy "the fact that i'm ignoring them should show you the solid foundation you're walking on with me" another thing i was thinking about is.. (going back to "am i as powerless as i think i am") ... are ANY OF US as powerless as we feel? for example.. my sister told me her son who was like probably 4 at the time, called her fat and she cried lol.. i doubt if a 4 yr old feels like they can have an impact on an adult's emotions.. but apparently he did on that day also.. sometimes my mom still tells me about how i used to say to her "mommy why do you always make nasty food?" and she tells me it used to wear her out lol.. but i really never understood that i had power to affect her so maybe, expressing my attraction to a girl will have more of an impact than i think it will.. maybe they will actually be receptive sometimes i don't even try AT ALL because of certain factors, like "oh she likes guys who look like this" or "oh she likes guys who act like this" or "oh she's taller than me" or "she has 50 college degrees" maybe they will still give me a shot despite these things? maybe i have more power than i realize? maybe they are not being approached by the right types of guys? maybe they aren't being approached at all? maybe i am their type and they don't care about other guys? maybe my lack of swag is a swag in itself? hmm......
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