i'm sure you've heard this before: "treat them like dirt, they'll stick to you like mud"
slick rick had a song called "treat her like a prostitute" what do you guys think of things like this? i've heard a lot of women say they like "bad boys" which is like women even saying they like this sort of treatment 'polite' doesn't really get you anywhere with girls it seems.. they seem to associate it with weakness i even see it in my personal life sometimes.. i often notice the girls i don't give a crap about are the ones who chase me all the time i can literally ignore a girl for months and she will contact me and ask me to go on a date with her they never seem to think "well maybe he doesn't like me" they seem to think "this is a fun challenge!" LOL women always seem to want guys who don't need or want them my personal analysis of this whole phenomenon is that this stuff is rooted in what men and women are men = leaders/providers women = followers/helpers if a man is polite and asks a woman for approval or permission it is seen by her as like.. him not being a leader-type something as simple as a guy saying "where do u want to sit?" could be a turn off to a girl.. when he really might just be thinking "i want to make her as comfortable as possible" but i guess she is thinking something like "i'm comfortable as long as you lead me with confidence.. stop asking me right or left, i want to occupy my space as follower/helper" with that said i guess in general we all need to make sure we allow the opposite sex to occupy their space if they don't WANT to occupy their alotted space, or if they CANT right now- then they are probably single, am i right? i guess men display more leadership type characteristics around girls they don't care about.. when a girl is a 9 or 10 we are afraid a lot of times she might leave so we try to roll out the red carpet if a girl is a 6 or 7 we have a more take it or leave it mentality.. we are like "i'm not going to ask her what she wants, i'm just going to give her what i want her to have" or instead of saying "can i kiss you?" we say "massage my ball-bag" girls don't want u rolling the ball in their court all the time.. asking them if u can do something in a sense they are like kids.. they need more attention and more direction than us men.. us men oftentimes shun both attention AND direction because we are a lot of times naturally just more into our own thoughts and opinions and discoveries so overall, i just wanted to speak a bit on this stuff just some thoughts to put out there one thing i must say though a lot of you women contradict yourselves when speaking on what you like and dislike "i want a man who loves and respects me" you really just want a guy who leads you and tells you you have a nice butt but i guess saying such would make you sound odd in today's society anyway.. my overall thought that i want readers to remember is this: i believe that women want to be a man's 'garnish' the thing that compliments a full life and makes it look better.. not the main course but something that rounds out the dish well men however resent being a woman's 'garnish' this (i believe) is why men may not want a woman who makes a lot more money than they do.. and also it seems to be why men don't want women who have super important careers where they have to pencil in dates with their man.. because this would likely make the man feel small this is what i want you all to remember, because i believe this is at the heart of many of our gender issues and it is just very simple to remember.. so again: women want to be a man's 'garnish' or trophy men DO NOT want to be a woman's 'garnish' i think if we get this, we could have a lot more functional relationships in modern society i remember some guy on youtube put it very bluntly when he said 'women date up and men date down' usually women want to date 'up' meaning find someone at least slightly older, taller, and/or more successful than they are while men oftentimes are looking to date 'down' because we men don't want to be relegated to sidekick status overall, we all want to occupy our roles with relative ease
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