Ok soo… today I wasted time having an argument with my sister
She hit a button for me when she said I have no work ethic (which is mind boggling considering how much she asks me for my help like with babysitting, or helping her with a job of some sort, or even the song and sound effects i did for her play a few weeks ago... but moving along....) I need to clear this up This is not just going to be toward my sister, but also toward misinformed women in general Ok… I don’t have a job (right now).. and a lot of women say they don’t want a man who doesn’t have a job That is cool, I have no qualms with that, its good for people to have standards But there are two main issues I have with how some women view or approach me Ok here’s my issue with my sister: She judges ME (my personal character) on what I do or don’t have in my life as opposed to my actions Here’s my issue with women in general: They have that “no scrubs” attitude Ok let me touch on my issue with my sister first When you judge my character and you think you know what I do or don’t do just because you see the outside, you are wrong.. You don’t really know me the way you think you do This is an example of my sister judging me on appearances as opposed to really knowing me: Reality: I get up late because I was at the gym then I came home and started doing applications into the wee hours of the morning My sister’s view: I got up late because I’m lazy and unmotivated Reality: because I don’t have a girlfriend I’m looking at girls on a dating site My sister’s view: because I don’t have a girlfriend I’m watching porn and using up all the lotion Reality: I don’t have a job but I just had like 3 promising interviews this past week My sister’s view: I don’t have a job because I’m James the mooching bum SHE ONLY SEES THE OUTSIDE.. SHE DOESN’T REALLY KNOW ME To an outsider, YES I PROBABLY LOOK LIKE A BUM, but if you were me you would understand I have been doing the best I can with what I have since about 2008 Have I ALWAYS had my life together? NO!!!!! BUT WHO HAS NEVER HAD A DETOUR? POINT ME TO SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER MADE A MISTAKE OR WHO HASN’T DONE SOMETHING THEY REGRET!!! AGAIN, I HAVE BEEN DOING THE BEST I CAN WITH WHAT I HAVE FOR YEARS!!!!!! Now let me touch on my issue with the general “I don’t want no scrubs attitude” I love that women have standards but the problem is that condescending attitude "i don't want him because he doesn't have a job" PERFECTLY LEGIT "he doesn't have a job, so he's a scrub and i'm too good for him" UMMM... NOT EXACTLY I worked full time making good money prior to college, I paid off my car in less than a year.. then I went to college, finished it, and I’m back to looking for full time work I fail to see where that sounds “scrubbish” AT ALL Before YOU had a job you were also unemployed.. and you probably told people lies saying you’re a vet or a nurse when in reality you were on career builder every night lol.. but when I’m in that same space of “in between jobs” you say “James is a scrub” Look.. I could be out here gambling, or doing crimes, or selling things I shouldn’t be selling in order to make fast money but no.. I deal with what I need to deal with so that I can advance in my life without having a criminal record Sometimes I may have to deal with not having a lot Sometimes I may deal with having to live with my parents, or with roommates, or in a less than stellar apartment Sometimes I may deal with loneliness because women want self-actualized men, not men who are still “working on it” BUT THAT IS WHAT MAKES ME A F*CKING MAN I ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES I DO WHAT I NEED TO DO IN THE BEST WAY I KNOW HOW Why say I’m a bum because I don’t have the great stable lucrative job YET? Why say I’m lazy because you see me living with my parents for a LIMITED TIME? Why say I’m a weak person because I sometimes need help to get a leg up? WHAT THE F*CK DO WOMEN THINK MEN ARE!? I think women really think men should be able to “pull themselves up by the bootstraps” It doesn’t work that way, I don’t know anyone who came out of the womb full of wisdom, strength, and financial stability I am positioning myself and getting my life together the best way I know how so what is your insult for me? Seriously what are you going to say to me? I am a loser because I graduated college even though I hated it? I am a bum because I get up every day and look for jobs and go to interviews? I am a deadbeat because I took the initiative to buy a $600 gym membership and I lost 14 pounds? I am a scrub because I’m not sexually experienced? Well guess what else? I have no kids, no stds, no baby mama drama, and my checks aren’t being garnished WHAT THE F*CK ARE YOU REALLY SAYING ABOUT ME!? I AINT NO DAMN SCRUB I AM NOT LAZY AND YOU WOMEN WHO DEMEAN GOOD MEN NEED TO SIT DOWN SOMEWHERE BECAUSE THOSE SAME MEN YOU SH*T ON WILL BE SOMEONE’S GOOD AND LOVING HUSBAND IN THE NEXT FEW MONTHS/YEARS Have your standards, seriously that’s great but don’t always judge by outer appearances and don’t be condescending to those who are in a certain space because trust me, the tables can turn.
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