to go with my post about liars i want to talk about why i don't trust people
one reason i don't trust people is because i am black
when you are black you sometimes find out people who you thought were cool were actually racist.. people smile in your face then turn around and talk about how you are dumb or ugly or inadequate because of your skin color
sidenote: i don't like it when people act like racism doesn't exist because i can barely go on youtube for 30 seconds without seeing racist remarks.. moving on..
when you grow up experiencing different racist things it just makes you aware that things are not always what they seem..
as a result, a lot of times i feel people are being phony.. i could be right or i could be wrong but i get sneaking suspicions that people are phony a lot.. especially those who:
1. play the victim a lot
2. act like everything is fine all the time
another reason i generally don't trust people is because people talk about other people.. if you diss a person in front of me then why should i believe you wouldn't throw me under the bus too?
one other thing is, i look at how people act when they don't get what they want or when they are irritated
you can't merely judge a person off of how they act when they are happy, you have to look at what they do on bad days..
when i am around people i take mental notes of how they act on bad days... this is one reason i don't date certain girls.. some people are like "james you're too picky" or "what's wrong with so and so?"
but they don't understand i've probably seen them act a certain way and i probably didn't like it.. most of the time i describe it as "scary" .. if a girl is scary, or if she makes me feel small/belittled, or if she is always threatening to do something violent.. i lose interest extremely quickly (and yes i've run into all of these types)
sidebar: if you run into any of these types, they will likely start off by trying to say scary, sarcastic, belittling, or threatening things in JEST..
here's what i have to say about that.. if you are the butt of the joke then unfortunately there is nothing funny about it.. so throw the notion of 'mere jesting' out the window.
understand she (or he) is revving up to make your life really craptastic.. believe them the first time.
if i was out for mere sex then i'd be cool with any conduct from the opposite sex.. since i am ultimately looking for a marriage partner, any weird behavior gets analyzed
like when girls get bad attitudes, i imagine what that would amount to behind closed doors in a marriage relationship
me: hey how was your day?
her: *rolls eyes*
when girls give me attitude for little to no reason i vividly see these scenarios play out in my head and i just think to myself "welp.. back to the drawing board"
what about you? do you trust people?
i always think about what people are REALLY like.. and one other thing..
when i see people act ugly, i remember it.. because i know they may do it again.. and they may escalate the behavior
see God a lot of times will let you see a glimpse of person as a warning.. it gives you fair warning to get away or run.. if you choose not to heed the sign then you may not get out of the impending danger they are likely to bring into your life whether emotionally or physically
add up all the warning signs and don't allow people to just pull the wool over your eyes
understand that liars know how to lie, actors know how to act.. don't put it past them to deceive you
when you get the feeling like a person is lying to you then investigate or just get away from them.. better to be safe than sorry.. watch for the warning signs!!!