i think family is very overrated in a lot of ways
i think family is good in that they help you get a leg up in life.. there is a sense of loyalty there however i have always wrestled with certain issues that go unaddressed in the family unit the main problems with family are as follows: 1. they think they can say anything to you "you're fat" "your spouse is ugly" "why did you spend money on that?" the sh*t is completely disrespectful and i don't care who you are, skip me with the negative talk.. i understand a criticism or well-placed question here and there.. but the "you need to do this" type attitude is just nonsense 2. they doubt you i've noticed family doesn't believe you've done something great until you're being recognized by thousands of people.. like accepting a grammy award or something you could run in a burning building and save a baby and they'd still treat you like that goofy 6-yr old child they remember you being... TWENTY YEARS AGO 3. their advice is dumb as F*CK they will say something that makes absolutely no sense and that will be their advice to you they will say something that is just an old saying- and that will be their contribution to your life.. that is the "wisdom" they have to offer you like say if ur a black male like me and you asked one of your cousins if you should marry a white girl you're in love with.. they might say some dumbass bullsh*t like "well you know, the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice" WTF? i now refuse to believe i'm related to you you f*cking halfwit 4. family expects you to do things you don't want to do "because you're family" you could say "i don't like to babysit" 10,000 times in 10,000 different ways but they will still not only ask you to do it.. but also EXPECT you to do it say no? look at the bright side.. you just won an all expense paid ride on the guilt trip express 5. family questions your decisions like you could say "i want a sky blue jaguar one day" they say something like "you don't want a jag boy you just talking" or "shutup you want a toyota" no, dumbass, thats not funny.. stop trying to undermine what i say. i think the list could go on .. but those r some of the main things that pop out at me right now i somewhat respect the family bond, but at the same time i REALLY don't.. i don't agree with you just "because we're family" I HAVE A MIND OF MY OWN and on top of that.. go back to genesis.. a man leaves his mother and father and cleaves to his wife.. so the whole family bond thing has a time then it ends at a certain point and i no longer owe you SH*T so sometimes i just feel like family needs to keep their opinions to themselves.. they overstep their boundaries too much.. thinking they can still influence your life .. but God gave me my own mind for a reason if you look in the Bible, Jesus was only really doubted by his family and the people he grew up with so when they asked him his thoughts on family, he said "my family consists of those who do the will of my father (God)" i agree with Christ.. i would rather be around people who live good, pure, Christian lives, than be around family.. not throwing my family under the bus.. but i'm saying at the end of the day.. good, pure, Christ-following people who love, and give, and do God's will- make a ton more sense than family family to me is just overrated think about it.. in what scenario in life would you ever walk up to an old guy who's playing the spoons and engage with him and have a full-on conversation? only at a family reunion i'll pass.
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Giles
10/4/2012 05:02:41 pm
Kurt Cobain said he didn't feel like you should have to pretend to wanna associate with people just because youre related
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jaims
10/4/2012 10:12:33 pm
yeah brah.. family is nuts.. i appreciate fam to an extent, but being 27.. i just feel like.. my life is more about what i choose and who i choose to be around.. at my age, sometimes choosing family over what you want can be like choosing the past over the future
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