earlier i was telling someone in an email about my thoughts on dating and the single life i want to point some of this out i think there are 3 main levels to being single, and one hidden level i am going to point out these levels starting with the worst one and moving up to the best the first level is "lonely" lonely^ is a sad place to be.. not fun.. maybe u are missing someone, or maybe u just have no one to talk to or confide in.. lonely is basically a state of 'lack' single^ is basically just normalcy.. ur not sad or depressed but ur not exactly walking on cloud 9 either.. u r just living a normal and functional lifestyle (^thats llcool jay in the middle of a bunch of women just in case u can't tell) bachelor^ status basically means u are not in lack at all concerning attention and affection from the opposite sex.. your cup actually overflows and u are desired.. your phone rings, you get emails.. people think ur ignoring them but ur not.. ur really just too popular and well-liked to really respond to everyone as much as they'd like u are exuding some sort of mastery or power over the opposite sex.. u are the one in control the last level in the game is a hidden level.. that level is "gave it to God" the "gave it to God" level^ is in my opinion the best place to be in
you understand that stages and phases in life serve a purpose so even if you want to be a 'couple'.. you still appreciate all the positive aspects of singlehood it is no longer your job to find out who to be with or who your future husband/wife will be.. instead it is God's burden to handle.. He is doing the caring, thinking, picking, and choosing FOR you the Bible says a number of powerful things concerning us such as: -God thinks about all the positive things He wants to do for us.. He wants to prosper us -God knows the number of hairs on our head at any given moment -God knew us before He formed us in the womb -God won't give us a stone if we ask Him for a fish in other words, God is looking out for us.. because of this, there is always hope that u will meet the perfect person for you in the "gave it to God" level now.. the bachelor may have a multitude of the opposite sex to choose from.. but still has limited understanding.. the bachelor can still choose wrong.. or the bachelor may possibly get caught up in chasing a high (sex and/or ego boost) as opposed to seeking a lasting fulfillment (think jersey shore).. God doesn't want people to be 'chasing their own tails' .. He wants us to live with purpose the "gave it to God" person knows that when God's timing is right.. they will receive that specific person God has for them here are some of the positives of this level: --having contentment, purpose, and hope, in singlehood (which will help u to exude confidence and meet someone quicker than the people who are single and bitter) --not being a heart breaker --not getting your heart broken --little to no guess-work --knowing you don't have to compromise who you are to attract someone because the God of all things is ordering your steps to meet the person for you (and He created you specifically for the time you are in) --having a clear unmarred vision of the opposite sex- not having your opinion of a person altered by a sexual relationship (i.e. all of your friends see your boyfriend is a loser except for you BECAUSE.. u know why) i would sum all this up with the word 'FREEDOM' freedom |ˈfrēdəm| noun the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint ^not having to impress people.. just be yourself because and trust that God has someone who will like you for you • absence of subjection • the state of not being imprisoned or enslaved • the state of being physically unrestricted and able to move easily ^God handles your love life so it frees you up to live in relative ease, u can be confident even when you have no natural reason to be • ( freedom from) the state of not being subject to or affected by (a particular undesirable thing) ^girls not having to compromise themselves to try and keep a guy.. guys not having to live in a constant state of false-bravado • the quality of being independent of fate or necessity. ^no longer NEEDING to be in a relationship, because you know God's will is at work in your life regardless.. BUT even if you just want a relationship u always have hope, faith, and prayer to turn to, because God said it wasn't good for adam to be alone in Genesis.. so He understands and i think He will help u meet someone special.. He may spend some time cleaning u up a bit before you meet that special person.. but keep a patient and positive attitude and things should work out! note: i am not saying if you move to the "gave it to God" zone that your life will be perfect or flawless.. i am saying you go from looking at people and how you measure up to their standards, to looking at God and how u measure up to His standards, and you seek to impress God as opposed to people and in doing this you also have faith and hope that God will take care of the relationship aspect of your life
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