here is a peeve i have that i've never talked about outloud
i don't like it when people say "don't touch me"
this is really just women.. i hate it when they make a big deal out of a non-sexual tap or conversational touch
i find it to be very... hmm how do i put it.. overly rude.
it can make u feel like u did something wrong or insinuate that u have ill-intent and you are not to be trusted on any level..
or it also could insinuate something like, "don't forget, i'm better than you and you can never have me" (in which case the girl is giving herself WAY too much credit)
if i'm sitting by you and we are having a conversation and i happen to touch u, i find it to be ridiculous for you to interrupt me and sternly and loudly say "don't touch me"
like what is that?
i really don't see what the big deal is.. sometimes when u talk to someone u may be explaining something and u might touch their shoulder or something.. how is that invasive or offensive?
that really irks me.. i really don't get it.. sometimes u touch someone when u talk.. it can just be an extension of body language.. like if i'm talking to a little kid i might touch him on the top of his head.. it doesn't mean i'm invading his space, its just something u might do when u talk to a little kid
or say, if someone does something good u may pat them on the back
i touch people sometimes when i talk.. and not just females either.. i might lean on a friend or whatever.. things like this happen
but some girls r just like.. i don't know what their deal is.. they just have their guards up so high that basic things are made to be like "violations"
i remember one time i was explaining something to a girl and i went to touch her or my hand got close to her (i forgot what happened) and she about jumped out of her seat like "DONT TOUCH ME!"
i was just sitting there like "wow that was totally unnecessary and offensive"
and to be honest.. i have a theory that this is PART of the reason why porn is so big and popular.. because there are so many "walls" up in everyday life, people are so closed off from one another.. as a guy u might not even really care about the sexual aspect, u may just want to turn it on to see women be submissive and not totally standoffish all the time
think about it.. if women treat u like u are a convicted sex offender all the time, u might just be like "fck it" and go home and turn on a video where women say yes to everything, just to try and balance out all the negative female interactions u have on a daily basis
i just feel like there's a point where u have TOO MUCH guard up, that's all i'm saying.. i mean if someone makes u uncomfortable, speak up sure, but if its not a violation, don't be a b*tch about it <---for lack of a better way to put it