before i say anything here i want to point out that i am single.. so i'm no expert.. if i was an expert i'd probably have a girl.. but anyway.. for better or for worse here are my thoughts on how to think (what mindset to have) when u want a girl
there is a lot of talk on how to get a girl you want as a dude u want someone pretty, trustworthy, agreeable, sweet, pleasant, presentable, someone who is a good listener, someone supportive.. etc the funny thing about getting a girl is that there are like a billion myths.. be cool, macho, be a comedian, be romantic, dress to kill, have muscles.. scratch all that u don't focus on the outer, u focus on the inner the best way to get a girl is to get ur own life together this can mean a lot of things, it can mean focusing on getting a good job, or going to school, or losing weight, or whatever it is that bothers urself about urself.. work on those areas and try to do better and get on track with what u want for urself if ur a dude looking for a girl, people will say to you.. "have confidence" smh THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY WITH WHERE YOU ARE AS A MAN that trips me out when people say to a dude "be confident" that's like "trying to explain yellow to a blind man" -lupe when young dudes confide in me i tell them "hey man, ur in school, u have a job, ur doing ur best, ur handsome u have reasons to feel good about who u are" as opposed to "be confident" confidence is like a feeling of "i'm doing something right" or "i have some control over this thing called life" that's why i say the number one thing is to work on urself get ur life in order, get in shape, have fun, work on ur career, work on being independent.. these are things that will help you get u women, not necessarily spray tan or "swag" or a fly car don't work on getting women work on yourself now.. here are some added things be honest with females.. don't be afraid to tell them ur flaws.. i know its hard to do but you'll see its harder to keep up a facade of being so strong and invincible now let me give a small example of this say u catch a back ache at work but u had a date with her to do something physical like rockclimbing.. u could act like ur back is fine and still go on the date and act like superman, or tell her ur back hurts and u feel bad u can't take her on the date.. if she is a butt-face she will throw a fit but in reality she will probably be like ok that's cool and rub ur back.. and feel closer to u cuz u admitted ur feelings and ur pain to her another thing is just be you.. don't try to act "cool" just act the way u normally act as a matter of fact, stop changing and adjusting for other people in general.. just be YOU like even if a girl doesn't necessarily agree with u about something, girls like a guy who is able to stand strong in their own beliefs and ways.. u can't do that if ur always allowing people and their perception to change u here's another thing to keep in mind: girls r like spiders u know how when u were little u'd see a spider and be like dad look! kill it!! and he'd be like "u gotta be kidding me, that thing is more scared of u than u are of it" that's how women are.. u might feel like they are going to diss u and they might but at the end of the day a lot of girls r wildly insecure.. it can manifest itself in different ways.. such as being too nice, too mean, or whatever.. but the truth is a lot of girls are really insecure if ur a good guy u have the upper hand because women know good guys are few and far between.. they get tired of being used all the time.. in my experience i have noticed a feeling of exasperation from females they want to know if you'll be different from the last guy.. in some cases they will overlook a lot of ur flaws if they know u will love and admire them for example.. i tend to flirt w/ girls from time to time.. sometimes i do this and later on i find out i was being nicer to her than her boyfriend was like i might say hey how was ur day? little did i kno her boyfriend doesn't ask her about her day or i might say she looks sexy as like being 1/2 serious and 1/2 joking.. but little did i know her boyfriend never does this so james what's ur point? my point is society is screwed up.. a lot of dudes are so caught up in their self that their woman is being neglected.. so if ur just nice on a basic level, u can get a girl who is maturing and getting tired of the bs and the games but back to my main point.. don't try to get girls to like u.. get you to like you and don't make it too hard on urself "i will like myself once i get that $100,000 car" smh... 1 day at a time peaCe
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