sooo vibe still sends me magazines even though i haven't subscribed for like what.. 3 years?
i don't care for a lot of magazines because they are full of nothing when u really get down to it, but that's a whole other story
i was looking through a vibe today and saw an article on usher.. i like something he said in response to a question so i decided to post it on here
what makes you a good lover?
Passion. My commitment to what I'm doing. It's my mission to please my woman to a point where she would not want to have any other man touch her, talk to her, encourage her. Loving a woman and being a lover isn't just a sexual thing. It's a passion thing.
It's the time that you take. The subtle moments that you take to recognize a woman's beauty. She put those eyelashes on for a reason, bruh. She put that dress on for a reason. She really changed her hair up for you because she wanted you to notice it. She wore that scent and put that lingerie on because she wanted you to notice it. It's being patient, taking your time.
i like what he said.. what did i like about it? i don't know i guess the fact that it sounds romantic
and what i personally mean by romantic is "ideal"
like i wish i had a girl who wanted to look good for me u kno what i'm saying? that would be great.. someone who actually was like.. "i want to brighten james's day or turn him on or look nice for him"
and then on my side i repay her with time, attention, care, affirmation, love, support, etc.
he kinda painted an ideal picture with his words.. a certain 'give and take'
as i reflect on what he said, i think what also resonated with me is the fact that usher described who i am as a "lover" which is someone who is attentive..
like you kno how sometimes u meet someone who forgets ur birthday, and they forget your phone number, and they don't remember the fact that they told u something already and ish?
u think to urself "wow this person is either really scattered overall, or i mean nothing to them"
^i'm not like that.. i'm the dude who will look at a girl and be like "why didn't u wear earrings today?" .. like i notice the subtleties
fortunately for usher.. the women around him appreciate his efforts
i don't kno if i could say the same for myself lol
but iono, whatever..
i'm just saying.. i definitely felt what usher was talking about