i was talking to someone and they brought this old situation to my remembrance
this happened back in the 90s
my "Granny" explained to my sister and i that she couldn't have french fries anymore because her doctor told her they weren't good for her health
one day my sister and i had cheeseburgers and fries at Granny's house.. if i remember correct, my mom got us food and left to run an errand.. so no one was there but us and Granny
so Granny came in where we were eating and she was like "can i have some fries?"
i was like "no, because the doctor said you shouldn't eat them."
my sister, out of compassion was like "sure Granny you can have some of mine."
this always kinda stuck with me and i didn't know why.. but over time it kinda began to form a meaning
i think what it showed me in a small scale was the main difference between male love and female love
there's no doubt we both loved Granny but the reality is we chose to love her in completely opposite ways
my thing was "i care more about your prolonged well being than how u feel at the moment" which is kinda how dads can be to their kids.. they can come off as mean or cold but when u look back u realize ur dad sometimes had to put his foot down to keep you in line
my sister's thing was "i have compassion for you in your current issues" which is kinda how moms can be to their kids.. like if something bad happens to you, you can go to your mom and have her comfort you and get you set back into life in a way where you feel good and not depressed or angry anymore
so what happened that day with the french fries was definitely a good little illustration of one of the many differences between men and women and the way we choose to go about loving someone
men and women are DEFINITELY not the same.. but we are both necessary to achieve healthy balance in this world