here's the memo Posted by poolboyjames on August 29, 2010 at 7:04 PM comments (0)one thing i think about sometimes is how much i want to be a good person to others
i never want to be a negative, bitter, angry, antagonistic, disagreeable, or cynical person to others i get irritated at myself sometimes when i'm not as polite as i feel i should have been in a given situation one thing i have noticed in trying to really be a nice, polite, patient person is u become very aware when other people are not those things.. people say and do things that are not cool at times and generally i try to let offenses slide and lead by example i want to give an example of a time where i was not treated kindly just to help point out why being polite is important ok i was out in 2005 with a black male friend of mine.. i liked him a lot i thought he was really cool i admired a lot of things about him.. we were just out chillin and he was showing me around his town then at one point we got into wal-mart and i saw an omarion cd and i was like "you guys look just alike" and showed him the cd he looked really angry and said "if you say that again i'm gnna punch you in the face" i didn't know what to say, i was in shock.. like i thought we were cool i didn't understand why he would say something like that to me.. if it came down to it i likely would have beat him down but i was just so shocked that i didn't even say anything.. it was like "did he really just say that?" and by the time i was over the shock it seemed inappropriate to say anything about it it was just one of the weirdest things i ever experienced with another person cuz i thought he was so cool, and i wasn't even dissing him, i think omarion is a handsome guy no homo.. so i was just like what in the world? but here's the point i really liked and admired this guy for who he was.. i still talk to him and i still think he's cool.. he and i never talked about that but i've forgiven him on my own terms as a Christian but despite all of that.. at the end of the day.. i'm writing a blog about this incident and it happened 5 years ago. meaning, i never forgot it and i still think about it sometimes and i still wonder to myself.. if we do something together, is he going to end up wanting to punch me in the face? at the end of the day, it just overall feels like our friendship will never be the same after that.. like i can talk to him and junk here and there but the trust remains shattered in a lot of ways.. so that's why i think being polite at all times is important, because once u violate someone, they probably will never forget that ish and no matter what u do or how hard u try, that relationship may never be the same after a certain line is crossed so a lot of times, even when i'm offended i try to just charge it to the game and be patient with the other person and/or say nothing at all in return so that we can have peace because if i just say the first thing that pops in my head then we might not be friends for very long so this is just my reminder to everyone out there.. be patient with people and be polite even when u don't feel like it.. walk in integrity and show genuine love when u can.. its fine to be angry, but if u project that anger onto a person as opposed to a situation.. then u may end up with some severed friendships and deep regrets.. just be the bigger man in all your situations to the best of ur ability all the memories i have of being mean to people.. i am ashamed of them.. but i don't think i've ever regretted being the bigger man in any situation.. and that's just what it is
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