my example is lauryn hill.. hiphopdx is my fave website and they said this today about lauryn hill:
Hill defends herself against some angry fans after showing up four hours late to her show
Lauryn Hill recently kicked off her first extended tour in years, and it is not off to a great start. The former Fugees star was four hours late to her show in Williamsburg on Tuesday, December 28. Her DJ and band were on stage waiting along with the fans, who soon turned hostile.
After members of the audience began throwing cups and bottles on stage, the keyboard player taped a sign to his kit that read "I was on time." A witness told the NY Times that when Lauryn arrived shortly after midnight she was carried in to avoid the snow. By the time she hit the stage some fans had makeshift signs that read "you just lost one" and "this is insulting."
While Hill apologized for being late, her tone was anything but apologetic as she told fans “I spent my entire 20s sacrificing my life to give you love. So when I hear people complain, I don’t know what to tell you,” she said. “I personally know I’m worth the wait.”
After performing her first song, she noticed the sign taped to the keyboard and tore it down, telling the band member, “you trying to escape the bottles and the cups. Next time you take it, you take it like a man. We in this together, brother.”
ok so basically.. i have to give the abridged version i guess because i don't know if i remember everything i said the first time i wrote this but i have a few points i wanted to make
1. why would an artist behave this way?
the answer is this.. they don't want to be an artist anymore
my sister has 3 kids and i don't think her heart is in poetry and music anymore like it used to be.. sometimes if i try to get her on a song or something it seems like she is distracted and it took me a while to realize it but i just think her head is elsewhere
lauryn hill in my opinion is like this also.. she was great in the late 90s however her zeal and love for music and the music-making process has been severely decreased for one reason or another
she no longer feels that connection with fans and that duty to make great art
but here's the issue.. she is going to continue to keep doing the music because that's how she makes money
the thing that says "don't be late because the fans are depending on you" isn't guiding her anymore.. money is
so as a result.. the fans get crapped on.. her band and crew get crapped on.. essentially at this point lauryn hill is the only person benefitting anymore..
#2. there is a good way and a bad way to let go
Seinfeld was offered more money than ever to do one last season but he felt in his heart the show was over, he was happy with his efforts and so he turned the money down.. as a result people can now say
seinfeld was a great show of the 90s
seinfeld never had a bad season
seinfeld went out at number one in the ratings
so as a result he can still make a million off an appearance or just kick back and collect checks from his syndicated shows and massive dvd sales
that 70s show went on way too long, the teens became adults and as a result things that were once just "immature teen" behavior became plain stupidity with time..
also.. and here's the real kicker for this.. THE MAIN CHARACTER LEFT THE SHOW AND THE SHOW KEPT GOING
how ridiculous is that?
i saw an interview later of the guy who played fez and he said "those last few seasons were just things i did to pay my rent" and he laughed about it but that's not funny to the real fans
like u ruined the reputation of the show.. u ran it into the ground, u "jumped the shark" (look up the phrase if u don't know it) like 4 or 5 times and ish
its like how ur in a social situation and someone comes up to u and tells u this hilarious joke.. u crack up laughing and ish is all good.. then they see u the next day and they say the joke again.. then 2 weeks pass and u see them and they say the joke AGAIN.. by this time u are beginning to resent this person's existence
when u see them again ur going to want to walk the other way because they have no tact.. they don't know when to leave good enough alone
.. its just annoying
lauryn hill's heart is no longer in it.. but she needs money
so she's going to make everyone suffer either until she benefits enough to quit again, or until her fans straight up abandon her
she needs to just be real with everyone and say "my heart's not in this anymore" do some kind of farewell show and just end it
this could possibly apply to other things like relationships also
like if the zeal, love and excitement are gone.. and ur spouse is actually beginning to treat u like crap.. maybe their heart's really no longer in it
they can be real with u and tell u what they're feeling or put u through the ringer more with their apathy and inconsiderate behavior
either way u look at it.. bowing out gracefully is an art that all should learn
u gotta know when to quit a thing.. be respectful, have integrity and let a thing go when its time.. its a principle of art and life situations in general
with that said.. it is now time for 2010 to end and bow out.. goodbye.. 2010 its been real but its time to move along!