ok so i said i wanted to say a few things about the whole white girl, black guy attraction do i believe there is research that can be done? YES did i do any? NO this is all just personal experience and opinion.. i dated a white girl for around 4 or 5 years (note: each point is represented with a different color) ok first let me address what i believe is a common misconception some people have told me like.. james.. a white girl won't love you as much as a black girl or.. james, a white girl is secretly out to get you or she doesn't have your best interest in mind.. ok.. now the reason i think this is a misconception is because the interest of the person (at least in my experience) is already there.. like somewhere along the line, they admired someone from your race prior to you even meeting them.. its not like u are that person's first person of your race that they liked or thought was cute for example i remember one time the girl i was with said that when she was a kid, she used to want to be black.. it wasn't like she truly meant "I WANTED TO BE BLACK" ..it was just a comment she made like.. she used to think black people were normally more accepting and more fun.. i knew what she meant when she said what she said so basically that's one misconception.. that oh, a person of a diff race may not appreciate you or love you but no.. a lot of times that love was already there in a sense for whatever reason before you even came along! and really, if your spouse is willing to deal with negative peer pressure, and negative family pressure in order to be with u (cuz there really are haters and racists who like to talk greasy) then that should show u that they really are there for you and its not for a superficial reason like so many people say it is ok now as for looks, obviously a lot of black guys appreciate curves on a woman, and obviously a lot of white females are insecure about their curves.. this makes an easy choice for both parties.. let me explain this a bit more ok a lot of black guys like curves.. so if ur a curvy black female, you might end up semi-stuck up because you are considered beautiful around your friends/family/peers so if a black guy sees a curvy white female, he may go for her because she is easier to get.. the black girls with the curves may be stuck up but the white girls with the curves may likely be the exact opposite.. they may have a bit of a negative complex about their looks.. so the black guy is excited to have someone who he thinks is pretty, but without a snooty condescending attitude and the white girl is excited to have someone who likes her just the way she is without her having to live up to a magazine standard now.. another thing to think about is the fact that the two are so different the black male and the white female in general are so different that i think a lot of times it helps the courting process.. there's more mystery there.. in a sense it can feel like a whole new world, they can really keep you on your toes in a sense for example a black guy may have to meet his white girlfriend's family, and that may cause anxiety for him because it may be a total culture shock.. but things that are difficult like that provide more of a challenge and they can add to the dynamics of a courtship.. basically.. sometimes getting over a difficult issue like culture shock (with the support of your spouse) can make u appreciate a thing more, and learning new things and new ways of life (like i said) adds to the value of your relationship the last thing thing i want to say is.. a lot of people say biracial kids normally turn out beautiful.. so that's one of the last reasons why the phenomenon exists this is just me talking about the phenomenon of black males with white females and why its so common i am not saying i prefer any race, i am just speaking on the whole thing from my take and experience i am willing to date any race my main thing is i want a girl i can respect.. a girl with some morals, a girl who will help make me better as a person anyway.. yall keep it bonkahz
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JaimsThese are my blogs from 2009. I started them in May of that year when I couldn't work on music but still needed a way to express myself. Archives
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